A Complete Beginner's Guide to Anal Sex
So you are not ready for full-on anal sex. Here are some simple exercises. Like warming up before the big game.
How to Prepare for Anal Sex
The external anal sphincter is one of the most sensitive places on your body. You can enjoy amazing pleasure without any penetration.The minimum preparation for enjoying external anal play is a regular bowel movement followed by external cleansing. Washing the external anal area with soap and warm water is often enough to allow you to feel at ease. Wet wipes can also be useful to keep around for simple, fast and gentle clean-ups. The important thing is keeping your intimate areas clean so you are relaxed and comfortable when you are engaging with yourself or your partner. Preparing for anal can be as simple as this: keep it clean and freshen up! Some people like to wax, shave or otherwise remove hair around their anus. This is totally a personal preference. If you do have hair in the anal area, be sure to use plenty of lubricant during anal play to allow for smooth glides without pulling the hair in this sensitive area.
How to Keep It Clean
Do not touch the genitals and anal with the same hand without washing up or changing gloves. The anus and the genitals are 2 distinct ecosystems and you do not want to spread bacteria from the anus to the genitals. Keep one hand clean for anal touch, the other for genital touch.
After Anal Play, Wash Your Hands!
You can use nitrile or latex gloves for fast and easy clean-up, so your hands can keep moving without a break to wash your hands. Again, use your brains – if you use gloves, change them often and anytime you switch activities. If you do not wear gloves, go to the washroom and clean your hands thoroughly with soap and warm water.
How to Rinse Out
An internal rinse is not necessary for anal hygiene, but most people find they can relax more during anal sex after doing this. An internal rinse can help you feel “cleaner” which for many people is a positive step towards receiving good anal touch.
Use a simple bulb enema with warm water to rinse out internally. You should never use an enema with vinegar or other harsh ingredients. Simple bulb enemas can be found at any pharmacy or ordered online. It is not recommend using large enema bags, as they tend to cause more problems than they solve.
To use a small bulb enema, fill it with warm water (not too hot!) and gently insert the tip, using lubricant. Then squeeze the water into the rectum and then let it pass into the toilet. Do this process until the water flushes clean.
Remember, feces are not stored in the rectum, it merely passes through during an active bowel movement. So you are simply flushing out the trace amounts that may remain behind.
How to Lube Up for More Pleasurable Anal Play
Another good tool for anal hygiene is lubricant. Water-based lubricants are now readily found in every major pharmacy and even many supermarkets. Silicone-based lubricants are a great choice for anal play, as they will stay slick and not dry out like water based lubes. Use plenty of lube and re-apply when needed. External and internal anal massage can be highly erotic, without a moment of discomfort. If you experience any pain at any point in the massage, stop and slow down. There is no need to endure anything. Preparing for anal play can make this intimate exchange more pleasurable and allow you to relax more into the experience. Thorough cleansing prior to the sexual encounter will take your worries away, and proper hygiene including gloves and lube will make the experience more enjoyable for both you and your partner.
- It feels best when there is some additional stimulation going on. Vaginal, clitoral, nipple-centric — whichever you like. While some girls only need butt play, most women can't come from anal stimulation alone.
- Anal sex shoul not hurt. This is where lubricant comes in. It should basically just feel like you might need to take a shit.
- There shouldn't be any fast movement immediately. Vigorous jamming of fingers anywhere should not happen immediately. Anal play has to be prepared slowly.
- Anal sex is not dirty. The anus and the lower part of the rectum actually have very little fecal material in them, which means it tends to not be nearly as dirty most people think.
- If you try anal sex few times and hate it, do not keep trying it because you think it'll eventually be tolerable. It is not for everyone!
- You do not need to get a wax. Bus some women get Brazilians simply to engage in anal foreplay.