The Sanskrit word for the male sexual organ is Lingam and is loosely translated as "Wand of Light." In Tantra or Sacred Sexuality, the Lingam is respectfully viewed and honored, as a "Wand of Light" that channels creative energy and great pleasure. Lingam is very relaxing and erotic massage.
What is a Lingam Massage?
Orgasm is not the goal of the Lingam massage although it can be a pleasant and nice side effect. The goal is to massage the Lingam, also including testicles, perineum and Sacred Spot (prostate) externally, allowing the receiver to surrender to a form of pleasure he may not be accustomed to. From this perspective both receiver and giver relax into the massage.
Men need to learn to relax and receive massage. Traditional sexual conditioning has the man in a doing and goal oriented mode. The Lingam Massage lets the man to experience his softer, more receptive side and experience great pleasure from a non-traditional perspective.
How to Give a Tantric Lingam Massage?
Have the receiver lie on his back with pillows under his head so he can look up at giver. Place a pillow, preferably covered with a towel, under his hips. His legs are to be spread apart with the knees slightly bent (pillows or cushions under the knees will help) and his private area clearly exposed for the massage. Before contacting the body, begin with deep and relaxed breathing. Gently massage the legs, abdomen, thighs, chest, nipples, and so on, to get the receiver to relax. Remind the receiver to breathe deeply and to try sink deeper into relaxation.
Pour a tiny quantity of oil on the shaft of the Lingam and testicles. Begin gently massaging the testicles, taking care to not cause any pain in this sensitive area. Massage the scrotum gently, letting it to relax. Massage the area just above the Lingam, on the pubic bone. Massage the the area between the testicles and anus (perineum). Take your time when massaging the shaft of the Lingam and vary the speed and pressure. Softly squeeze the Lingam at the base with your right hand, pull up and slide off, then alternate with your left hand. Take your time when doing this, right, left, right, left, etc. Then, change the direction by starting the squeeze at the head of the Lingam and then sliding down and off. Again, alternate with right and left hands.
You should massage the head of the Lingam as if you are using an orange juicer. Massage all around the head and shaft. In Tantra there are many nerve endings on the Lingam that correspond to other areas of the body. It is believed that many ailments can be cured by a good Lingam massage. The Lingam may or may not go soft as you perform this technique. Do not worry if it does not get hard again. You will probably find that it will get hard, then go soft, get hard again, and so on., which is a highly desirable Tantric experience, like riding a wave, bobbing up and down. Hardness and softness are two ends of the pleasure spectrum.
When it appears that the receiver is going to ejaculate, back off, allowing the Lingam to soften a little before resuming the massage. Do this few times, coming close to ejaculation, and then backing off. You need to remember that the goal is not orgasm in and of itself.
The Sacred Spot
Find and massage the male Sacred Spot. There is a small indentation about the size of a pea or maybe larger midway between the testicles and anus. Be very gentle and push inward. He will feel the pressure deep inside and it may not feel good at first. Eventually, as this area is worked on and softened, he will be able to expand his orgasms and master ejaculatory control. You can massage his Lingam with your right hand and massage his Sacred Spot with your other hand.
Try pushing in on this spot when he nears orgasm. The man may have strong emotions come up during access to the Sacred Spot. Be the best friend and healer he could have in that moment. You, the giver, are creating a place of trust and intimacy.
When he feels complete with the massage, gently remove your hands cover him and keep him warm. Most importantly, allow him to rest quietly for at least five to ten minutes.
What are the Benefits of a Lingam Massage?
Men can learn the art of ejaculatory mastery and control by coming near to ejaculation and then backing off on the stimulation. Deep breathing is secret here and will soften the urge to ejaculate. Eventually ejaculatory mastery will allow you to make love as long as you want and you can become multi-orgasmic without losing a drop of sperm. Orgasm and ejaculation are two different responses that you can learn to separate. The result is a very expanded sex life.
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